Projection is a powerful tool. The traits that annoy you most in other people are often the desires you have repressed in yourself. Do you judge loud, ambitious people? You likely desire visibility. Do you judge lazy people? You likely desire rest but deny it to yourself.
Romance: The desire for beauty and aesthetic or physical intimacy. 18 q desire
Fantasy desires are easy (beach in Bali). Real desire is what you want on a rainy Tuesday. Do you want three hours of uninterrupted work? A long lunch with a friend? A run in the park? Designing the mundane week is the truest test of what you actually want. Projection is a powerful tool